ALLEGORIES

          

    
154. Three Pieces of Advice Vs 20 Years of Salary
153. Dealing with people who make mistakes
152. Good beans and bad beans
151. Unconditional Acceptance
150. Grandma In Court
149. Muda Out Of Our Lives
148. A Techie And A Retired Person
147. Currency Of The Heaven World
146. Never Forget Your Friends
145. A German Shepherd And A Panther
144. Stay Together
143. We'll Find Your Jeep
142. Art Of Parenting
141. How To Catch A Monkey?
140. Don't Change The World
139. Who Is Richer?
138. Tool Of Discouragement
137. Laymans Outlook
136. Invisible Labels
135. Be Always Intact
134. Where Are We Going?
133. A Richman And A Beggar
132. The Cockroach Theory
131. You Need That Prayer
130. Finding Happiness?
129. You Are Special
128. A Wedding Gift
127. The Crab And The Wave
126. Size Of God
125. Relationship Matters
124. Appreciate The Brakes In Your Life
123. Password Changed My Life
122. Use All Your Strength
121. The Ant And The Contact Lens
120. Gods Grace
119. Irresistable To Detestable
118. The 99 Club
117. Are You Focused?
116. Importance Of A Drop
115. Charity Wrapped With Dignity
114. Small Good Deed
113. The Truth
112. Virtues To Light
111. Performance Counts!
110. Story Of David And Svea Flood
109. Our Journey Together Is So Short
108. A Horse And A Goat
107. Hold On To Christ
106. Lawyer And Judge
105. Gold or Silver?
104. Little Spark Of Love
103. Self Realization
102. The Parable Of The Rat Trap
101. Inner Ego
100. A Blind Girl
99. Coffee On Wall
98. Please Help Me Understand
97. Change Your Nature
96. Rise Above Criticism
95. Nine Short Stories
94. An Angry Cobra
93. What You Sow, You Reap
92. The Pearl Necklace
91. Hope For Every Parent
90. Man And Four Sons
89. Resources Belong To The Society
88. A Lady In A Flight
87. The Story of Colonnel Sanders
86. Life In Order
85. From The Devil
84. I Almost Sold Your Son
83. God's Rosebud
82. A Story Of Michael Jordan
81. Building An Empire
80. Thanks For Your Time
79. On His Way To The Church
78. Are You Jesus?
77. Wet Pants
76. Story Of Harakhchand Sawla
75. Nature Of The Material World
74. A Man With Four Wives
73. Sweetness Of Sour Oranges
72. The Choir Team
71. Evil Does Not Exist?
70. Heaven On Earth?
69. Being Happy
68. Who Is Richer?
67. Divinely Inspired Push
66. The Story Of Marvan Atapatu
65. Young Lady And Psychiatrist
64. What Comes Out of You?
63. Dogs And Wolves
62. Mine You Illegally
61. The Pigeon Story
60. The Parable Of The Empty Boat
59. Bombay To Bangalore
58. Hearing Problem
57. Monkeys In A Village
56. An Engine In A Factory
55. Value Of Life
54. Frog In A Vessel
53. Church Goer
52. Teamwork And Humanity
51. Timber Merchant
50. What Goes Around Comes Around
49. Jonah And The Whale
48. A Cruise Ship
47. The Pastor's Cat
46. The Broken Pot
45. Christian Always On Duty
44. HR Manager In Heaven
43. Good News And Bad News
42. Old Age Home
41. Undeniable Facts
40. We Are Nothing Without Each Other
39. Make Amends
38. Stress & Tension
37. Never Conclude For Others
36. Value Of Helping Family
35. Law Of The Garbage Truck
34. Silversmith
33. Selfless Real Love
32. Lesson From An Ant
31. Doctor shocks, Engineer Rocks
30. Why Me?
29. Prepare Children For The Road
28. Positioned In The Right Place
27. We Are Never Alone
26. Spider Web
25. Adore Whatever You Have In Life
24. Father And Son - 5 Star Hotel
23. Not A Single Conflict
22. Planting The Seed
21. Life Is Just A Moment
20. Association
19. A Person On His Death Bed
18. Respect Is A Two Way Street
17. Are You Hurt?
16. A Boy With Few Shells
15. The Missing Goat
14. Mother Flying A Kite
13. Excellence - driven from inside
12. Lesson From Giraffe
11. Tomatoes In A Plastic Bag
10. Evening Dinner With A Father
9. Positive In Negatives
8. Hold The Door Open
7. A Tale Of Two Seas
6. A Great Equalizer
5. The Power Of Faith
4. Saved And Lost
3. Three Little Trees
2. Whatever Became Of Evangelism
1. Potatoes, Eggs And Coffee Beans

 
Father And Son - 5 Star Hotel
 

An old man, staying in a small south Indian town came to visit his son in Mumbai recently.

The son in his early thirties is a successful businessman living with his wife and son.

The father, having spent most of his life at his birthplace, hardly understands a splatter of Hindi or English, forget Marathi. But he doesn't care. 'I have come here to spend a few days with my son and his family.

I don't have to go out and socialize with the city people,' he said.

But the son is very excited about his father's rare visit to Bombay. He wants to make the best of it. He and his wife want to show him around the city. And yes, the son enjoys those evening hours too, when he and his father go out and sit in a good bar, sipping their favorite drink.

Last week he was in a very good mood. 'Let's go to a five star hotel's bar tonight,' he told his father. It was a beautiful evening. Talking about everything under the sun they had a few drinks. As usual they were offered some salad, peanuts, wafers etc as accompaniments with their drinks.

The old man being almost toothless was not much interested in eating. But that day when they got up to leave, he simply took a handful of channa (roasted grams) and stuffed it in the fold of his dhoti. He might have thought about munching on them, sitting in the car or whatever.

Unfortunately while walking in the lobby, he missed a step and stumbled. Down he went, scattering the channa on the plush carpet. No problem .....

Now try to visualize that scenario.

Someone else in his son's place would have been mortified, embarrassed to death. He might have cursed not his father but his own self for causing this awkward situation.

'Never again will I take my old man to such hotels', he would have vowed.

No sir, not this son. Gently, with a smile, he helped his father get back on his feet. Instead of feeling irritated or angry, he was amused. He found the whole incident very funny.

Laughing, they both went home and on the way they decided to return to the same place the following Sunday.

The old man liked the place and liked the channa too.

Few days back, at a friend's place they both described this event and made everybody laugh.

Weren't you embarrassed? Somebody asked the son. 'Oh, come on now' replied the son. 'He is my father. He talks in his native language, prefers to wear a dhoti even to a posh city hotel, takes channa from the bar to eat later, does whatever he feels like.... So what? Why should I feel embarrassed with his nature and habits?

Nobody has a right to stop him from doing whatever he feels comfortable with, as long as it is not harmful to others.'

The son doesn't care what the staff in the hotel thought about that incident.

He says 'they should be concerned only with their bills and tips.

I am concerned about my Father's Happiness.'

The wife too totally agrees with the husband on this issue.

She feels there are enough other qualities in her father-in-law to feel proud of. Accept them the way they are. . .

The above incident is not mentioned just to show the love and devotion of a son for his father.

More than love it is a matter of understanding and a healthy respect for the other person's lifestyle.

A seventy plus old man doesn't want to change his lifestyle now.

He likes the way he eats or dresses or talks. In his eyes there is nothing wrong with the old ways of living.

And the son says, ok, fine.

Everybody has a right to live as per his wish.

Now at his age, why should he be forced to learn to eat with a fork and knife, if he doesn't want to?

I will feel bad if he is doing something morally wrong or indulging in some harmful activities.

But otherwise it is fine. I am not going to try to change him at this stage. He is my father. I love him, respect him.

Hey folks, can you think this way?

So many times we see people getting embarrassed by the so called unsophisticated behaviour of their family members.

They keep on apologizing about their lack of class and manners or about their drawbacks to outsiders.

My wife can't speak proper English; she doesn't know what's happening in the world, so I avoid taking her out or introducing her to my friends and business associates...

My parents can't eat with a spoon and fork, so I don't take them to restaurants ...

My husband is working as an ordinary clerk, so I feel awkward when I introduce him to my rich friends.

My brother is mentally challenged, so I don't feel like going out with him...

Are you plagued with such thoughts or do you meet such people who think alike?

If you do, please ask yourself. Why do others or I feel this way?

Really what is there to feel ashamed of?

Most of the people always have this fear of other peoples' opinions and comments.

What would others say? Why should you?