ANALOGIES

          

    
49. Law And Ethics
48. The You And The Ego
47. Pleasure And Happiness
46. Ownership And Stewardship
45. Discipline And Punishment
44. Law of Sin & Death And Law of the Spirit
43. Responsibility And Accountability
42. Ego And Soul
41. Subconscious Mind And Physical Mind
40. Intuition And Ego
39. Religion And Spirituality
38. Fixed Mindset And Growth Mindset
37. Accountable Teammates And Unaccountable Teammates
36. Culture of Blame And Culture of Accountability
35. True Love And Fake Love
34. Unhealthy Love And Healthy Love
33. Feelings And Emotions
32. Anxiety And Depression
31. A Boss And A Leader
30. Trauma Bonding And Authentic Bonding
29. Ego Love And Authentic Love
28. Narcissism And Self-Love
27. Things That Drain Your Energy And Raise Your Energy
26. Confident And Arrogant
25. Mother And Father
24. Busy Leaders And Productive Leaders
23. Busy People And Productive People
22. Critical Thinking And Creative Thinking
21. The Old Covenant And The New Covenant
20. Meddling And Helping
19. Pride And Humility
18. Critical Spirit And Caring Spirit
17. Emotional Immaturity And Emotional Maturity
16. Religion And Gospel
15. Intelligence And Wisdom
14. Teacher And Guru
13. Spiritual Gifts And Talents
12. Spiritual Gifts And Fruit Of The Spirit
11. Love And Lust
10. Live Churches And Dead Churches
9. Unbroken And Broken People
8. Children Learn What They Live
7. Man And God
6. Self-Centered Life And Self-Centered Deeds
5. Man's Way And God's Way
4. Men And Women
3. Winner And Loser
2. Competitors And Innovaters
1. Manager And Leader

 
Discipline And Punishment
 

No. Discipline Punishment
1 Proactive Reactive
2 Focus upon the future: "Here is what to do instead" Focus upon the past: "Stop doing that!"
3 Preserves mutual respect of feelings and dignity Ignores feelings and dignity of the child
4 Raises self esteem. Leaves child feeling good about self Lowers self esteem. Leaves child feeling bad about self
5 Teaches self-control by explaining reason Teaches outside control by offering no explanation
6 Parent and child feel good about each other and the relationship Parent and child feel disconnected from each other and the relationship
7 Parents choice Demands compliance
8 Sensible, related to misbehaviour Arbitrary, unrelated to misbehaviour
9 Motivates and encourages to do better next time Inspires anger, resentment, rebellion or withdrawal
10 Looks for feelings and needs that drive behaviour Focuses on behaviour
11 Child feels understood Child feels misunderstood
12 Decreases power struggles, since the needs of parent and child are met Increases power struggles because only the needs of the parents are met
13 Time in: Parent and child decide together on time Time out: Parent decides on time, place, tools and helping person
14 Consequences: Focus upon restitution and natural outcome of events Consequences: Focus on hurting or depriving the child